It’s understandable that most people are apprehensive about going on blind dates. Most people are apprehensive about anything unknown. A blind date requires complete faith and a relinquishing of one’s fate to, well, Fate, and more often than not people fear ending up disappointed by their blind dates because they somehow don’t live up to their expectations.
But if you were to go on a blind date, that is the one thing you shouldn’t have in mind: Expectations. If you’re on a blind date of your own free will, you shouldn’t have some lofty expectation, hoping for the best and fearing the worst. This article will dispense some useful tips and tricks for guys keen on going on blind dates, but not knowing what to expect or do while on one.
The first thing you need to keep in mind is this: It’s a blind date. In most circumstances, your blind date has no idea what to expect from you because she hasn’t met you at all, so first impressions count. Think of it this way: Would you be attracted to a filthy, terribly attired woman who doesn’t seem to know how to make a good first impression? Unless you have some strange kink for women who don’t bother taking good care of themselves, then the answer would most likely be no.
The point to be made here is, looks are important. It isn’t a superficial stereotype, but it’s true. In the dating scene, looks make first impressions. A woman could have the most annoying behavioral trait but if she looks smoking hot in a dress with her hair down, looking like a gorgeous pin-up of a supermodel right off the pages of FHM, you’ll probably put up with her quirks just to spend the night with her.
If you have that kind of mentality, why shouldn’t your date have the same? Attraction often involves a visual component first and foremost. So be sure to appear at least decently attractive on your first blind date, so you won’t be a complete turn off for her.
However, it’s almost rare that a woman would be attracted to just a guy’s looks. Have you seen normal, average Joes who aren’t exactly what you would consider handsome or attractive in the very least, but they have by their sides smoking hot girlfriends? It’s the strangest combination for sure, but there is a perfectly reasonable explanation for it.
At the most basic level women like guys who are assertive, confident, and able to take control of situations, themselves, and others when needed, because all those traits represent safety for the woman. So on that first blind date, be sure to come across as a guy who’s confident, mature, and in-charge.
Another trait women find attractive is personality. You could be the worst-looking guy she’s ever met, but if you’ve got a personality that shows you’ve got a heart of gold, she’ll be putty in your hands. No one can change their natural appearance without drastic cosmetic surgical procedures, in fact it’s damn well impossible, but what is possible, even though it may take quite a bit of effort, is to €tweak€ your personality to your date’s liking.
If you have some inkling of what she likes, then be sure to conduct the necessary research beforehand so you’ll come prepared with discussion topics that might appeal to her, perhaps something that has to do with current pop culture, or really anything that she might show an interest in.
However, be sure to steer clear from the old clich©s like asking her what she does for a living, or asking about her family, or her hobbies. And never, ever, ask for her age. Be different, be unique, stand out from other guys so you’re ingrained into her mind as a guy who’s different and worth getting to know a little better.